- Everything Was Wonderful Phase: Only the good things come to mind in great detail. Because it was so wonderful you are angry and in pain. This goes on until you have relived in detail all the great times and most excellent qualities of the lost one.
- Everything Was Awful Phase: Only the bad things come to mind in great detail. You feel some relief that the lost one is gone and some guilt that you don't miss them more or feel worse. (There's no winning this one.)
- Everything Was: At this point you achieve a sort of balance. When you relive an event or memory you see both sides and can see good and bad in what you have lost.
It takes a long while to get through this and there's no telling when somewhere down the road something will come up and smack you in the head and remind you that, yes, you are alone. Suddenly you will be back at the beginning of the process, just like it was yesterday. The "acceptance" part takes a long time.
Once I love someone they stay with me forever. Yep. It never ends. Love's like that.
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